Big Steps, Bright Smiles:
A Parent’s Guide to 5–7 Years
Your child is becoming a confident “big kid”—growing in independence, curiosity, and social skills. Here’s your at-a-glance guide to their milestones, learning leaps, and daily challenges.
Explore Milestones By Age
The Eager Learner & Helper: 5 to 6 Years
They’re stepping into “big school” with curiosity and a desire to show you what they can do. Friends matter more, and learning is now a team effort!
Brain Booster: “Story Swap”
After reading a story, ask “what if?” questions. “What do you think the wolf was feeling when the pig’s house didn’t fall down? Why do you think he felt that way?”
Why it Works (The Science):
This simple game builds **perspective-taking**, a core part of **”Theory of Mind”**. It teaches your child to imagine the world from another’s point of view, which is the foundation of empathy and sophisticated social skills.
What to Look For: An Interactive Checklist
The Budding Reader & Friend: 7 Years
Seven-year-olds are building real friendships, taking more responsibility, and starting to see themselves as “big kids.” You’ll notice leaps in reading, self-care, and their social world.
Brain Booster: The “What If?” Game
Pose a simple social problem: “What if your friend takes your crayon without asking? What are two different things you could do or say?” Talk through the possible outcomes together.
Why it Works (The Science):
This game directly builds the brain’s **executive functions**. It encourages your child to pause instead of reacting, generate multiple solutions, and think through consequences—all critical skills for **problem-solving and emotional regulation**.
What to Look For: An Interactive Checklist
School-Age Myths vs. Scientific Facts
As kids enter school, new questions pop up for parents. Let’s look at the science behind some common worries.
A child’s logical brain (the prefrontal cortex) is still years away from being fully developed. Big emotional reactions to seemingly small problems are normal. Your role isn’t to dismiss the feeling, but to be their ’emotion coach’—naming the feeling and helping them find a calm way through it.
At this age, children still need significant help with **executive functions** like starting a task, staying organized, and managing time. Your role is to be a supportive guide—helping them create a routine and a quiet workspace, and being available for questions, not to expect full independence.
While many kids are reading by age 7, many others are still solidifying foundational skills. The most important thing is consistent progress and a positive, low-pressure attitude toward reading. Making reading fun through library visits and reading together is far more effective than comparing them to peers.
Parenting School-Age Kids: A Toolkit
This age is all about “I can do it myself”—but your support is their foundation. Here are ideas to boost their confidence, manage routines, and stay connected as they grow.
Tips for Building Independence
- Give small responsibilities: Let them lay the table, pack their bag, or water plants. Doing things “on their own” is a huge confidence boost.
- Let them choose: Give two options (e.g., “red shirt or blue shirt?”) to help them practice decision-making.
- Expect (and accept) some mistakes: Spills and forgetfulness are part of learning. Encourage trying again instead of fixing it for them.
Tips for Homework & Daily Routines
- Make a simple routine chart: Use pictures or colors. Visual reminders help kids know what’s next and feel secure.
- Short and sweet sessions: Break homework into short blocks (10–15 min), with movement breaks in between.
- Celebrate effort: Stickers, high-fives, or a favorite story after work time help build a “can-do” attitude.
Tips for Supporting Friendships
- Role-play common situations: Practice “what to say” when joining a group or if a game doesn’t go their way.
- Talk about feelings: Name feelings in stories and cartoons. This helps them express and understand their own emotions with peers.
- Encourage group activities: Board games, team sports, or creative projects teach cooperation and turn-taking.
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