What Shapes Children’s Behaviour?

Behaviour is how children show what they feel and need—sometimes with words, sometimes with actions. It’s shaped by their age, environment, experiences, and even their health.

Roots of Common Behaviours

• Tantrums: Frustration, tiredness, or being unable to express themselves can lead to meltdowns.
• Clinginess: Separation anxiety or changes in routine can make a child more attached.
• Aggression: Hitting or biting is often a response to strong feelings or lack of coping tools.
• Withdrawing: Shyness or silence may reflect overwhelm, fear, or needing time to adapt.

Top Myths About Behaviour

• “It’s just bad behaviour.” Every behaviour has a cause—children aren’t “naughty” by nature.
• “Tough love always works.” Kindness and consistency are more effective than punishment.
• “All children outgrow problem behaviours.” Some difficulties need extra support to improve.

Simple Strategies That Help

• Stay calm and patient: Children learn from your reactions.
• Set routines: Predictability makes children feel safe.
• Praise positive actions: Celebrate small successes.
• Give choices: Letting children choose helps build confidence and reduces power struggles.
• Use clear words: State rules and expectations simply and kindly.

When to Reach Out for Support

• Intense or frequent tantrums after age 4–5.
• Self-harm or harming others.
• Sudden withdrawal or loss of interest in friends/activities.
• Destructive behaviour that doesn’t improve with guidance.
• Daily routines (sleep, eating, school) are affected.

Early support is a sign of strength—not failure. Help can make family life happier and easier for everyone.